Here are four different ways that summer camp can help your kids develop and mature.
Published: February 1, 2020
By: Tanni Haas, Ph.D.
There are so many great reasons why you should consider sending your kids to sleepaway camp this summer, and it’s not only because they’ll have a whole lot of fun. Based on my experiences as the parent of a 15-year-old boy who loves summer camp, as well as conversations with other parents, I’ve learned that sleepaway camp can be character-building. Here are four different ways that summer camp can help your kids develop and mature.
Independence. For most kids, sleepaway camp is the first time they get to experience real independence. They’re away from their parents and other adult family members for an extended period of time, and they have to quickly learn how to take care of themselves, from getting themselves ready in the morning to choosing their daily activities. Of course, there are counselors who’re responsible for the overall welfare of the kids, but unlike teachers who tell kids what to do, camp counselors act much more like older brothers and sisters who’re on a joint adventure with the kids. I’ll never forget the first time my spouse and I picked up our son from sleepaway camp. He acted like a completely different person than the one we’d left behind only a few short weeks earlier: independent, mature, and with a confident, knowing demeanor.
Organization. Sleepaway camp teaches kids how to become better organized. From the moment they wake up in the morning to the moment they go to sleep at night, they have to make many choices that require them to organize themselves and their time. For example, in the morning they’re supposed to wake up, get dressed, brush their teeth, make their beds, and walk to the dining hall at the same time and together with all the other kids they’re bunking with. But unlike in school where teachers tell kids exactly what to do and when, camp counselors expect that kids figure it out themselves. And that includes not forgetting to put their dirty clothes in the hamper on laundry day.
Friendship/Community. Kids also learn some very valuable lessons about friendship and being part of a community. Camps often let parents request that their kids bunk with friends from home. Yet, they’ll also bunk with many other kids, often from different states and countries. This will teach them how to get along with and enjoy the company of kids with very different backgrounds than their own. Most camps are aware of this and organize activities aimed at creating a strong sense of camaraderie and community, including evening camp fires, sing-a-longs, and the ever-popular camp Olympics.
Conflict resolution. Sometimes, despite camp counselors’ best efforts, conflicts do occur over who bunks together, who sits next to whom at meal times, and who plays with whom. After all, kids often live in cramped quarters at camp, with unfamiliar roommates. But that’s not such a bad thing. One of the most important skills kids learn at sleepaway camp is how to solve interpersonal conflicts on their own. Camp counselors certainly step in to solve serious conflicts, but they’ll typically let the kids solve the small ones. And learning how to solve conflict is a great skill kids will bring home with them and use long after the camp is over.
Tanni Haas, Ph.D. is a professor in the Department of Communication Arts, Sciences and Disorders at the City University of New York – Brooklyn College.